Here I am thinking it is completely normal because of all the social groups that I am in where there are tens of thousands of solo travelers – while I get a blank stare from my coworkers when I tell them it be just me. As I talk to my not so seasoned travel friends/associates, I’ve always gotten the same expression whenever I tell them that I travel solo. Many people reach out to me and tell me that they want to travel solo but they’re afraid for whichever reason or don’t know what to do or how to stay entertained. So…I decided to create this and let you know 🙂
SOLO IS THE WAY TO GO.
It’s Your Time. Your Schedule.
This is probably the most important reason why. You get to do what you want to do when you want to do it. If I want to nap (because I adore them) I could without having someone or a group of people waiting on me. I want to eat at the same restaurant and try a different dish every day of the trip – guess what? I am doing just that. I see a puppy and guess who’s petting it? ME. Traveling solo allows you to plan (or not plan) your day exactly how you want to while catering to YOUR needs and wants. You will never have to worry about setting up meet up times or creating an itinerary that compliments everyone. If you feel like being social you can meet people and hang out with them at your leisure, never an obligation. Nor will you have a responsibility of keeping up with someone and their whereabouts. I can’t remember how many times I’ve frantically tried to find one of my friends after her phone died after a night of drinking. Not cool. A definite hard pass.
The “Pity Perks”.
There’s a common misconception when someone travels alone that they are in fact “lonely”. That is not always the case, and nowhere near it. Lol. So with this, people tend to give you things or give you special treatment. One time at the airport in Chicago, I so happened to be the only woman at the bar and after the casual conversations of “where are you headed” and I told my story of how I was traveling to Bahrain alone, I had a shot bought for me as well as my lunch tab picked up. At the same airport heading back home, I allowed another solo traveler who was in a rush to share a table with me to get serviced faster and he picked up the whole tab. There’s something special about Chicago airport hah. Personally I’ve noticed I get treated and preference WAY more when I am alone.
The Connections You Make.
Some people deem me as a social butterfly, but I don’t think I am. The truth is I actually get super nervous when I meet someone and continue to have social anxiety throughout the conversation until I get comfortable enough to relax. But I would say that I have met some of the most amazing people in my travels with the most dope life stories. If you have trouble initiating the conversation that’s no problem if you go to a restaurant, sit at the bar, and not glue yourself to your phone a table talk conversation will arouse. Or even you simply asking someone near you what they are eating/drinking to break the ice. Most of the time people are super friendly and usually the ones with the most personality. Now, I have friends from all over the world both internationally and domestically so if I am ever passing through heir city or want a getaway I can save money on hotel accommodations. A win/win situation.
Traveling in groups/with someone can be fun but it also can be super inconvenient. If you book an AIRBNB, usually the price goes up based on how many people are being accommodated. Finding out who is sleeping where in which room and who gets that master suite… a pain. Even if you are at a hotel or resort, adding everyone’s name to the room just in case Jessica doesn’t get locked out after a night out. While dining, there’s always that one chair left at the bar to sit at – if you are traveling solo, that spot my dear is just for you. Your name is all on it. You usually get to ride in the front if you are in a shared vehicle for a tour or transfer from one place to another. Requesting a new seat assignment is easier when it’s just you instead of trying to coordinate with 2-8 other people as well. Let’s not forget the biggest convenience of them all of not having to deal with anyone’s attitude but your own.
Now, don’t get me wrong.. i STAN for a bomb ass girls trip, tearing up the streets in a foreign country with a few of my closest friends. BUT… i still will always to choose to ride solo. ❤️